The Dating Life Chapter 2: Fun
As I make my way through this thing called blogging, I hope to become a better writer and communicator, so please bear with my posts. They’ll be long, but I hope they’ll be full of pertinent information. Now on to Chapter 2 of the Dating Life: Fun
If you’re having trouble trying to figure out what women want, try logging on to a personals site and start reading profiles. This is a free look into the woman’s mind. Read as many as you can tolerate. You’ll start to notice that most of them read the same. Among other similarities, a woman wants someone that is fun. Everyone is bored, even she is, your potential date for the evening. If you can get this idea into your head and base your dates on avoiding boredom, you’ll be in good shape. Plan dates that are fun, especially in the beginning. I'll post more about fun dates later. The next idea is more important. The idea of being funny; actually, you should be “cocky and funny”.
Cocky & Funny
When you first see a woman that you are attracted to, you want to talk to her and try to create attraction from the beginning. If you’re a good looking guy, chances are she’s already attracted to you, but things can change drastically the minute you open your mouth and start to talk. If you’re an average guy you have to use personality to spark attraction. One way to spark attraction is to be cocky and funny. This term was coined by David Deangelo. Basically you want to mix a little arrogance with a little humor. I can literally spend all day on this topic, but Mr. Deangelo has already done this. Check his stuff out. To give you an example of cocky and funny: You see a woman with high heels on and she’s looking good. You walk up to her and say, “I like your shoes….what are you like 4 feet talk with out them?” You’re probably not rolling on the floor with laugher and not all women would find this funny, but women will laugh at things that men won't. You also have to NOT act like all the other guys that walk up to this woman, especially if she’s attractive. She has guys walking up to her all night probably saying that she has nice shoes and then asking where she got them or how much they cost. They are constantly complimenting her, buying her drinks and kissing her ass. Boring. You started with a compliment then followed with an amusing insult. Maybe give a half-smile after saying it to confirm that you are kidding, but please, PLEASE do not say, “Oh, I was just kidding”, or start to laugh at yourself and your own jokes. That means your seeking her approval, and once that starts you can kiss you chances goodbye. So instead of complimenting her, bust her balls using cocky comedy.